
When is it OK to get a Divorce?
In today’s society it is impossible to watch tv, read your newspaper or a magazine without encountering a major breakup. You are guaranteed of seeing an announcement about another couple getting ready to call it quits and get a divorce.
Divorce has become an everyday occurrence.
The laws of the land state that you can be granted either a fault or no-fault divorce for the following reasons:
Grounds for a No- Fault Divorce
Irreconcilable differences
Irretrievable breakdown of the marriage
Incompatibility
Separation for longer than a year
Grounds for a No- Fault Divorce
Adultery
Cruelty
Abandonment or Desertion
Mental Illness
Criminal Conviction
So let’s take a look and see how Divorce is governed in the Bible
(B)- basic
(I)- instructions
(B)- before
(L)- leaving
(E)- earth
In Matthew 9:3- we see where the Pharisees came to Jesus to question him about what reasons allowed a man to be able to divorce his wife. They wanted to know if was ok for a man to up and put his wife away for any reason that the man felt was fit to use.
Jesus responded to them by asking had they not read where God created Man and Female to be intertwined as one flesh after they left their mother and father. This was so that they would become as one flesh that was inseparable; not allowing anyone or anything to come between them.
Matthew 9:6 (Amplified)
So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together let no one separate.
After Jesus defined the foundation of what marriage was intended to be the Pharisees once again questioned Him on why did Moses decree for a man to give the wife a certificate of divorce and send her away.
Jesus responded to them by saying that divorce was permitted by Moses because of the hardened and stubborn hearts of men; however in the beginning marriage was not designed to be ended with a divorce.
Jesus went on to say that the only reason for divorce was if sexual immorality had occurred.
So in essence divorce should be the last resort and it should only be allowed as a result of sexual immorality in that relationship.
So as Christians what can we do to try to avert divorces from happening?
We can ensure that before we marry that we are equally yoked and both parties have went through marriage counseling together
We can start believing in our vows that we take before each other and God.
We can enter into the marriage knowing that in order for it to work it will take hard work, dedication, loyalty, honesty, and lots of love
Remember that when you get married you will be taking an oath that is supposed to last forever. You will be making a commitment that you will be there for each other not only during the good times but also the bad times.
That is why it so important to pray and wait for God to bring your soulmate to you. Don’t be in a hurry. God will provide the one for you that He has set aside just for you.
God Bless you all,
Have a great week! 🙂